I've heard from other military wives that the work ups to a deployment are worse than the actual deployment its self....
Well so far its been hello, goodbye for the last several months…when he isn’t here I am missing him like crazy, when he is here we are at each others throats! I’ve heard this is normal, it’s the stress on both of us that makes us irritable and we argue. He is stressed about his first deployment and what he has to do during the months he is away….I am stressed with having 2 kids doing the “single” parent thing for many months and losing my best friend!
Of course reading this you would think why cant they just cherish the time they have together after all they are not going to see each other for a long time, well it’s not that easy! Adam is a keep to self person about his work which is a good and bad thing. Bad because he never talks to me about it, so he is usually in a pissed off mood or zoned out when he is at home. When Adam is gone, I am making lists of things that have to get done before the big day. But when he is home, (which I understand) the things never get done because well….life happens. Which makes me irritable because I already feel like I am holding down the home front, I just need the bare minimal help from him!
Well realization is kicking in more and more,. He is now doing his final training. When he gets back we have the pre-deployment leave and then he is gone. Now I will NOT be posting details on when, and where Adam is but I can say he is leaving in spring and we don’t know when he will be home. This deployment will be on MEU (Marine Expeditionary unit) which is based mainly on a ship. Adam doesn’t like the idea of being a Marine, having all the training he has and not being in a combat zone, however I am more at peace knowing my husband isn’t in a combat zone!
Well here is to making each day count when he IS home!
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What sucked about work-ups were us fighting because he was trying to push himself emotionally away from me. I didn't understand, and I just wanted to cling to every last moment we had with each other. He left, I was left alone sulking to an empty bed. It takes a while to get back into a rhythm of things, but you'll keep busy, and hopefully these months fly by. The honeymoon period when he comes back, makes it all worth it. :)
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