Day 3

Parents day-

Where to begin, My “father” is Hispanic (Mexican and Spanish) my grandparents came over when my dad was a few days old. His name was Raul but growing up he said he didn’t want the stereotyped of being Mexican so he wanted to be more “Americanized” so he changed his name to Paul and he didn’t carry on any of the Hispanic traditions, he didn’t even teach me Spanish. My mother’s family came to Michigan from Germany where they homesteaded and had a lot of acres on a farm that was pasted down for many many generations, until my grandpa couldn’t take care of it anymore and sold the farm and property. My moms family tried to keep there German traditions but threw the generations they lost touch with it. How awesome would it have been to grow up knowing Spanish and German?!

To sugar coat it, I didn’t have a great childhood, but I am sure I didn’t have the worst childhood either. My “father” was an adulterous, he was abusive, a liar and a controller. I say was because I haven’t talked to him since my graduation in high school nearly 6 years ago.

My mom she was never strong enough to face him and move on from him, looking back she was not there the way a mother should have been for her children.

While in my senior year of high school, my mother and I moved to my oldest brothers house, after I graduated from high school my mom went back to him and told me “your 18, your no longer my concern”. SO while in college I had NO communication with my parents, until one day I couldn’t take it anymore and I called my mom and by this time I had already had my daughter, I told her I was hurt that she had not tried to talk to me since. She actually ended up coming to my college graduation with my oldest brother. Then helped me move out to California where she stayed a week. That has been the most time in 6 years that she has spent with me. Haven’t really seen or talked to her since, because I don’t want a relationship with my “father” just my mom and he wont allow it!

SO what if anything did I learn from my childhood, well I guess to not be anything like my parents!! Honestly I am somewhat grateful to have had the life I have had, because that has made me who I am today! I PUT my self through college with no help from them. I have gotten married and have a beautiful daughter that honestly THEY are missing out on!!