Like I have mentioned I was from MI and Adam is from Columbia which was about 45 minutes from our college so naturally Adam invited me to his family gathering for thanksgiving. Adam has a huge family compared to mine so I was extremely nervous to see his family, on the way over to his cousins house he was telling me who was married to who and I am not very good with names haha. The last time I went to thanksgiving at his cousins house about the only thing I remember is well while leaving my clumsy butt fell down 3 or 4 stairs on the front porch, adam started laughing and I got mad at him for that, after asking if I was ok he carried me to the car. so not a good memory haha so anyways I had only met his family a good handful of times and didn’t know everybody’s names, so I was pretty nervous. Well after stuffing our faces and meeting everyone we ended up leaving and going back Adam’s Apartment to spend some Adam and Paula time.
Christmas was one of the two times (the other was in the summer) of year I would go home to MI to visit my family. So usually Adam would take me to the airport and we would be apart for Christmas and New years until I came back to SC for the winter/ spring term. well haha I don’t really do good flying I get all tense and worried and work my self up, so ANYTHING can get me spiting fire when I am about to fly, so on our way Adam said or did something and I snapped at him. I told him I was pissed off at him and didn’t know if I wanted to be with someone who did whatever he did…..so we left on bad terms. I was mad at him and he was mad at me, both of us are extremely stubborn so neither of us called the other for a few days. By this time I was just annoyed, so my best friend Chrysti and I went to Canada…where it is legal to drink.. to kinda get my mind off him. While we were out that night I remember telling chrysti I had a weird feeling, I was craving things I never eat and I was just different, hard to explain. Chrysti brushed it off and said “come on your not your on the pill.” That I was, BUT I switched birth control pills right around thanksgiving….So when we got back from Canada I bought a pregnancy test, didn’t tell anyone I had bought one and took it, it was the cheap ones, ya know plus or minus. well sure enough it was Plus…..I called chrysti up and she rushed over and we bought two clear blue tests….sure enough they were pink and POSITIVE.
Mad that I hadn’t talked to Adam in days I called him up, and he acted surprised to hear from me. Not wanting to fight I cut right to the chase and told him I was pregnant. Neither of us knew what to say so we didn’t say much. FOR me abortion is out of the question, so when I told the most important people (my brother and sister-in law) they asked what I planned to do….I said Adam is about to leave in a month for the Marines, I don’t care if he goes or stays I don’t want him to regret it either way, and if we end up together we do if we don’t we don’t… BUT I am going to keep this baby, after all it is a part of me, a living being inside of me!
Well as soon as I got back to SC, adam and I talked and we agreed we want to be with each other, we love each other and going into the marine corps will be hard but at that time Adam was working as a car dealer and he didn’t necessarily make much on commission. SO the next step was to tell his parents….Well it must have been the weekend before he left his parents threw him a “goodbye/good luck at boot camp party” where everyone in his family was there. I kept telling adam all night, we HAVE to tell them. Not wanting to announce it to the whole family, we waited till everyone had left and told his parents. They were not thrilled with the idea, being I was 20 and a junior in college and Adam was 22 and was about to leave for the marine corps.
When I went back to school I found comfort in my sorority sisters who were very supportive, and in time Adams family came around and would invite me over for dinner. Three months doesn’t sound like a long time, but when you are waiting on letters, and letters get lost (or addressed wrong! haha thanks adam) its hard to figure things out. But we made do with it, Adam would write me and tell me how much being there made him realize he wants to be with me, not just that spend the rest of his life with me. I would write him back planning details for a wedding, and I wanted him to be very much involved with my pregnancy as much as he could be, so I would write each Monday what the baby was doing as far as what was developing, telling him my cravings and what the doctor would say at my visits. Adam Left for boot camp and I was a mere 105lbs….3months later at his graduation I was a good 125 pounds…not a big difference BUT I was only 3 months pregnant, I felt huge and very uncomfortable, worried adam wouldn’t even recognize me. But he did and I was so excited to see him.
Christmas was one of the two times (the other was in the summer) of year I would go home to MI to visit my family. So usually Adam would take me to the airport and we would be apart for Christmas and New years until I came back to SC for the winter/ spring term. well haha I don’t really do good flying I get all tense and worried and work my self up, so ANYTHING can get me spiting fire when I am about to fly, so on our way Adam said or did something and I snapped at him. I told him I was pissed off at him and didn’t know if I wanted to be with someone who did whatever he did…..so we left on bad terms. I was mad at him and he was mad at me, both of us are extremely stubborn so neither of us called the other for a few days. By this time I was just annoyed, so my best friend Chrysti and I went to Canada…where it is legal to drink.. to kinda get my mind off him. While we were out that night I remember telling chrysti I had a weird feeling, I was craving things I never eat and I was just different, hard to explain. Chrysti brushed it off and said “come on your not your on the pill.” That I was, BUT I switched birth control pills right around thanksgiving….So when we got back from Canada I bought a pregnancy test, didn’t tell anyone I had bought one and took it, it was the cheap ones, ya know plus or minus. well sure enough it was Plus…..I called chrysti up and she rushed over and we bought two clear blue tests….sure enough they were pink and POSITIVE.
Mad that I hadn’t talked to Adam in days I called him up, and he acted surprised to hear from me. Not wanting to fight I cut right to the chase and told him I was pregnant. Neither of us knew what to say so we didn’t say much. FOR me abortion is out of the question, so when I told the most important people (my brother and sister-in law) they asked what I planned to do….I said Adam is about to leave in a month for the Marines, I don’t care if he goes or stays I don’t want him to regret it either way, and if we end up together we do if we don’t we don’t… BUT I am going to keep this baby, after all it is a part of me, a living being inside of me!
Well as soon as I got back to SC, adam and I talked and we agreed we want to be with each other, we love each other and going into the marine corps will be hard but at that time Adam was working as a car dealer and he didn’t necessarily make much on commission. SO the next step was to tell his parents….Well it must have been the weekend before he left his parents threw him a “goodbye/good luck at boot camp party” where everyone in his family was there. I kept telling adam all night, we HAVE to tell them. Not wanting to announce it to the whole family, we waited till everyone had left and told his parents. They were not thrilled with the idea, being I was 20 and a junior in college and Adam was 22 and was about to leave for the marine corps.
When I went back to school I found comfort in my sorority sisters who were very supportive, and in time Adams family came around and would invite me over for dinner. Three months doesn’t sound like a long time, but when you are waiting on letters, and letters get lost (or addressed wrong! haha thanks adam) its hard to figure things out. But we made do with it, Adam would write me and tell me how much being there made him realize he wants to be with me, not just that spend the rest of his life with me. I would write him back planning details for a wedding, and I wanted him to be very much involved with my pregnancy as much as he could be, so I would write each Monday what the baby was doing as far as what was developing, telling him my cravings and what the doctor would say at my visits. Adam Left for boot camp and I was a mere 105lbs….3months later at his graduation I was a good 125 pounds…not a big difference BUT I was only 3 months pregnant, I felt huge and very uncomfortable, worried adam wouldn’t even recognize me. But he did and I was so excited to see him.
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